You cannot look away. You also cannot turn them into you.
The two of you
Libra. You feel real when the air between people is fair. People see the ease, and the one who makes it pleasant.
Aries. You feel real when something is starting. People see the one who goes first. The heat is obvious, and so is the courage.
What wears it out
Being forced to decide while everyone else stays nice drains you. So does a peace that costs you.
Waiting drains you. So does a room that manages you instead of letting you move.
Libra needs to talk before it feels real and starts things. Aries runs hot and wants it now and starts things.
Each of you is what the other is not. It holds when the difference stays interesting. It breaks when one of you starts correcting the other. Together, it shows up as the person across the table. The other way around, it shows up as the person across the table.
This is the answer people want before anyone knows a birth time. Two real people have more than a sun sign. If it matters, cast both charts.