It feels easy, like you already know how to be around each other. The risk is you stop choosing it.
The two of you
Libra. You feel real when the air between people is fair. People see the ease, and the one who makes it pleasant.
Aquarius. You feel real when you are allowed to be slightly apart. People see the difference, and the idea that arrived before the room was ready.
What wears it out
Being forced to decide while everyone else stays nice drains you. So does a peace that costs you.
A room that wants you normal drains you. So does closeness that asks you to merge.
Libra needs to talk before it feels real and starts things. Aquarius needs to talk before it feels real and does not like to be moved once settled.
Wanting each other is not the hard part. Staying awake to each other is. Comfort can turn into taking the warmth for granted. Together, it shows up as romance, play, and being admired. The other way around, it shows up as the bigger plan, farther away.
This is the answer people want before anyone knows a birth time. Two real people have more than a sun sign. If it matters, cast both charts.